March 2009
Passions vs Reality: Can they coexist?
 How
do you focus on your passions when reality is hitting you in the face?
Though you may not be one of the 5 million unemployed here in the
United States, you have probably been affected in some way by the
recession, the new reality. And in this grave new reality,
how do
you focus on something as esoteric and epherial as passions, dreams?
When you may be struggling to pay the bills, how do you focus
on
what you really want out of life? How do you look to the
future
when you are struggling to make it through the day?
These are great questions. Here's
another; how do you make it through the day without passion, without
dreams?
Your
passions and dreams are the visions of what you want to be, do or have
in life. Each day we live should be moving us towards those
dreams. This doesn't mean you don't need to provide for your
family. It doesn't mean just dream your life away.
You
still have to act. But, if that act is taking a job you don't
like in order to provide for your family because your dream is
for
your kids to be better off than you; then that job is moving you
towards your dream. The dream makes the meaningless meaningful.
Do
you have dreams? Are you passionate about anything in your
life?
These are the important questions you need to answer in order
to
get through this recession.
PASSION
feeling
very strongly about a subject or person, usually referring to feelings
of intense desire and attraction, be very passionate about something
Can
you identify the top 5 things you would like to have, be or
do?
Are you really passionate about those 5 things or are you just wishing?
If you haven't identified what you are passionate about, then
this new reality is your reality. You have given away your
control. You are allowing someone else to create your life.
My suggestion is to take the time to identify your passions.
One tool that I recommend is The Passion Test™ by Janet Bray
Attwood and Chris Attwood. Since taking the test
myself, my
life has been more focused and more fulfilled. Not that I
didn't
at some level know what I was passionate about, but having gone through
the work of identifying, clarifying and visualizing my life "living"
these passions I am more directed in my life. I now have a
framework by which I live everyday. My passions are like a
"to
do" list for me life. Or, better put by Janet Bray Attwood.
Passions
are like bread crumbs on the path to your destiny
And,
with these passions firmly in mind, I am able to weather through
this downturn in our economy. Staying focused on these dreams gives me
a sense of control over my life. I do not know when these
will
show up. I do not know exactly how it will happen; that, I
leave
up to a higher power. I just stay focused and do what I can
to
move towards these. That gives me a sense of calm during this
economic storm.
If
you are questioning what your life is about, if you feel lost with no
direction or if you just want to increase your focus on what is
important to you, please take The Passion Test™. Start this
year
off in the right direction toward discovering your destiny.
Don't
let others dictate your reality. Create your reality through
living your passions.
You can contact me for one-on-one
coaching sessions with The Passion Test™.
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The Universal Laws: Is Our Recession
Evidence of the Law of Polarity
There
are 7 Universal laws (some say there are as many as 12) that govern all
that we do. I began last month with the law of attraction.
Over the next 6 months
I will take each remaining law separately and explain as best
i can how
these laws show up in your life and the affect they have.
Before I begin with the law of polarity, let’s review the 7
universal laws. These are the
laws
of:
1. Perpetual Transmutation
2. Relativity
3. Vibration (Attraction)
4. Polarity
5. Rhythm
6. Cause and Effect
7. Gender
So, let’s go in deeper into the law
of polarity.
From the basic sense, the law of polarity means that everything has
an opposite. Night follows day....day follows night.
The
tide comes in....the tide goes out. What goes up....must come
down. This is the universal law of give and take.
It will
always be there. Just as a pendulum swings, so does life.
The swing to the left will be equal to the swing to the
right.
So, what does that mean to you?
The recession is a
good example of the law of polarity. As good as times were,
so
will they be bad. Remember the seven year famine from
biblical
times. It followed seven years of prosperity. What
can you
learn from this? They survived the seven year famine because
they
prepared for the downside. This is exactly why as a nation we
are
in the spot that we are. We never looked at the downside.
The formulas used to determine profitability of these
collateralized debt obligation never considered if things started going
south. They did not pay attention to the law of polarity.
How to
minimize the affect of the law of polarity:
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Identify your life goals and passion.
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Have a plan to reach your goals.
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Assess how close you are to achieving
your plan/goals.
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Conduct a "stress test" on your plan.
How will it hold up if the worst should happen?
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Prepare a disaster recovery plan.
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When the worst happens, relax, work you
plan and focus on the upswing that will occur.
Remember,
what you think about comes about. So, particularly in the
down
side of the law of polarity, it is important not to focus on the
negative. If you have planned accordingly, you will make it
through and the upswing won't be far behind.
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Worried About Your Job? Here's
what to do...
I was speaking to a friend and colleague the
other day. We both worked
for a large lending company that has gone through major changes over
the recently as you might expect. I called to
check-in. What I heard
about life there was much the same as I am hearing from many of my
clients. As one who has experienced lay-offs in the past, I
am always
surprised at how badly most of corporate America handles the
transitioning of not only its employees, but its business as well.
But,
as a life coach I would like to address the impact on the
employees. I
have been involved in 3 layoffs as a senior manager in major
companies. None of these handled the situation well when it
came to
employees. The biggest problem: no
communication. Corporate America
from what I have seen seems to think that the less said the better.
What
is the outcome of this strategy? Employees quickly become
disenfranchised. Work becomes secondary to trying to figure
out what
is going on. The rumor mill runs rampant. Employees
would rather make
up something, than deal with no information. They struggle to find
something, anything on which they can base decisions. Should
we stay
or should we go becomes a constant mantra.
And senior
management reaction: mums the word. Senior management seems
to take
the position of parent and the employee the child. The child
is only
given the information the parent deems they can handle. What
a shame.
So, what do I tell my clients? Here are the top 10
things to do.
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Look only to that which you can
control. Control what you can in your
work. Leave the business issues to those in those positions.
-
Don't listen to the rumor
mill. It gets you nowhere. It is a false sense of
knowing.
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Ask specific questions for which you
need answers in order to do your
work. Review your job goals and performance standards and
refer to
them when asking for answer. Make sure you gain commitment on
performance expectations based on current situations.
-
Review
your skills and accomplishments. Build up your
self-esteem. It is
easy to allow the low performance of the company to make you feel you
haven't been performing. This will do you a disservice when
looking
for other work. And, it will even convince you that no one
else will
want you. Therefore, you stay too long at the wrong company.
-
Reflect on your life/career
goals. Remind yourself what your goals
are. Check these against your current company. If
they are not
compatible anymore, begin the process of moving on.
-
Update your resume. If you are
not good at writing, have a
professional review your resume. It's a tough market out
there.
Put your best foot foward.
-
Pick up the pace on
your networking. If you are not a member of a professional
organization, join one. If there are no professional organizations to
join, join a social one or volunteer. Getting a job through a
referral is still the number one way to get a job.
-
Review your budget. Know
exactly what you need to make a
change. Given our environment, you may have to take a pay
cut,
especially if you choose a different career path.
-
Update your skills. Take some
courses to make you more marketable.
-
Don't panic. If you have a
plan, if you are preared, then
you can handle what comes your way. Panic and desperation never
look good to a potential employer.
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